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  • Coping With Grief & Loss

    It’s like this massive storm that rolls in unexpectedly, leaving us feeling tossed around and lost. Whether it’s saying goodbye to someone dear, a job, or even a dream, grief shows up in different ways for each of us. 

    Being realistic:

    Culturally we don’t talk about what grief is supposed to look like or how long it is supposed to last.  Movies and media don’t help to support our understanding of this when we are faced with grief in real life.  Loneliness, addiction and other hardships are real consequences of the lack of connection we desire after experiencing a loss.

    Acknowledge the Feels:
    First things first, it’s totally okay to feel all the feels. Sadness, anger, numbness – you name it. There’s no right or wrong way to grieve, so give yourself permission to ride those emotional waves. Some days you might feel like you’re on top of the world, and others, well, not so much. That’s all part of the journey.

    Reach Out:
    You don’t have to go through this alone. Seriously, reach out to your squad – friends, fam, whoever makes you feel seen and heard. Sharing your thoughts and feelings with others who get it can be a game-changer. Set boundaries with people who aren’t helpful with the things they say.  Provide guidance on what is helpful for you  because sometimes people may not know how to respond to you. And if you need some extra support, there’s no shame in talking to a pro. Therapy is like a lifeline in the stormy seas of grief, offering insights and coping strategies to help you navigate through.

    Take Care of You:
    Self-care isn’t just a buzzword; it’s essential, especially during tough times. So, make sure you’re looking after numero uno. Eat good food, get enough sleep, and move your body – even if it’s just a little. Establishing a routine can help bring some stability to the chaos. And don’t forget to do things that bring you joy, whether it’s binge-watching your fave show or dancing around your living room like nobody’s watching.

    Honoring Memories:
    Losing someone or something dear to is painful, but finding ways to honor their memory can bring comfort. Get creative – organize a tribute, plant a tree, or make a scrapbook of precious memories. And keep their spirit alive by continuing traditions or rituals that hold special meaning. Remember, grief is just another way of saying, “I loved deeply,” so celebrate that love in whatever way feels right to you.

    Navigating grief is not easy but you can: reach out for support, take care of yourself, and find ways to honor the memories that matter most.